心得語錄
可憐的娃，從小到大被灌輸了太多“no pain, no gain”的思想
more happy， more creative
be the change you want to see in the world
give yourself the permission to be human, to fail.
write about the bad things, think about the good things. Don't take it for granted.
to be known, not to be validated
don't magnify, don't minimize, don't make up
write journal and set goals
don't narrow or constrict, think out of box.....easier said than done
stress is good, is helpful, the key is recovery. sprint, recovery, sprint, recovery, and then the vacation. good
our path? magnify-->narrrow,constrict-->minimize-->down;
to be real
learn to fail or fail to learn, there is no other way.
no perfectionism, more excellence.
perfectionism is harmful, be careful of it. it will make you down.
pursuit for excellence, enjoy the journey
permission positive perspective
don't fight nature, work with nature
breathe deeply
fight for excellence, not for perfectionism
questions create reality
common sense is not that common
cultivation is more important than choices
not to be fault finder, be the benefit finder, then be the benefit creator
accept human nature, then create systems to transform it. the systems are not the only way.
the secret of success: optimism--believe in yourself, passion--love what you do, hard work--take action
visualize not only the destination but also the journey
give yourself and others the permission to be human, to fail
quantity affects quality
more happy， more creative
be the change you want to see in the world
give yourself the permission to be human, to fail.
write about the bad things, think about the good things. Don't take it for granted.
to be known, not to be validated
don't magnify, don't minimize, don't make up
write journal and set goals
don't narrow or constrict, think out of box.....easier said than done
stress is good, is helpful, the key is recovery. sprint, recovery, sprint, recovery, and then the vacation. good
our path? magnify-->narrrow,constrict-->minimize-->down;
to be real
learn to fail or fail to learn, there is no other way.
no perfectionism, more excellence.
perfectionism is harmful, be careful of it. it will make you down.
pursuit for excellence, enjoy the journey
permission positive perspective
don't fight nature, work with nature
breathe deeply
fight for excellence, not for perfectionism
questions create reality
common sense is not that common
cultivation is more important than choices
not to be fault finder, be the benefit finder, then be the benefit creator
accept human nature, then create systems to transform it. the systems are not the only way.
the secret of success: optimism--believe in yourself, passion--love what you do, hard work--take action
visualize not only the destination but also the journey
give yourself and others the permission to be human, to fail
quantity affects quality
好東西要不斷強化，才能變成自己的東西。幸福學也提到了
the secret of success
optimism--believe in yourself
passion--love what you do
hard work--take action
the secret of success
optimism--believe in yourself
passion--love what you do
hard work--take action
ABC
A：affect，情感
B：behaviour，行動
C：cognition，認知
ABC 相互影響，相互作用。
ABC可以解釋很多東西
A：affect，情感
B：behaviour，行動
C：cognition，認知
ABC 相互影響，相互作用。
ABC可以解釋很多東西
快樂的祕密
1）鍛鍊身體
耐力--有氧運動，韌性--伸展運動，力量--肌肉運動
2）睡覺
3）深呼吸
4）冥想
5）多嘗試新東西
6）微笑，擡頭挺胸 （行爲改變觀念）
7）幫助別人
感激
感激你現在所擁有的，你的身體，每一個健康的細胞，你的家人，能有衣服穿，有東西吃，你的工作
if you don't appreciate it, it will depreciate.
you appreciate it , it appreciate.
don't take it for granted
多使用3P解決心中疑惑
1) permission
give yourself the permission to be human, permission to fail
give others the permission to be human, permission to fail
fail to learn or learn to fail, there is no other way
2) positive
be positive finder, find the positive side
做一個積極的人，凡事看積極的一面。
有錯誤，有問題，就吸取經驗教訓
任何事情有利有弊，沒有對錯。
對錯，在不同的場合，不同的時代，有着不一樣的含義
3) perspective
把眼光放遠一點，不要侷限於一個小點，看看一年後，十年後，百年後，甚至遙遠的未來
不要陷入3M
1）magnify
買衣服那件事記憶猶新，人真的很容易就會把一件很小的事情，一個很小的小孔放大
2）minisize
把事情放大後，就開始把其他好的開始抹殺了，看不到全局了
3）make up
接下來就開始胡思亂想了，根據不靠譜的東西去虛構了，然後就信以爲真了。好危險
注意休息和調整
壓力是好事，它讓你成長和強大，但要注意休息和調整，否則就會弄傷了
sprint, recover, sprint, recover
focus, recover, focus, recover
性格可以只有優點
很多書籍和觀點很容易誤導人
比如 no pain, no gain， 其實應該是 do better with pleasure，知之者不如好之者，好之者不如樂之者
比如 性格有優點，也有缺點 ， 這句話讓多少人放棄改正自己的錯誤，即使去改變，潛意識裏也認爲改變不了
或者認爲會把優點一起改掉，然後就這樣痛苦地過完一生
優點和缺點沒有綁在一起
你可以改掉完美主義，但你依然可以ambitious
你可以改掉固執，但你依然可以有韌勁和堅持
仔細想想確實很荒唐，優點跟缺點綁在一起，大概是收到了”每件事情有利有弊，凡事有兩面性“等等通過想象推導而來，應該在不同的環境，條件，採取不同的方法和”性格“。（這就是變色龍？呵呵）
追求卓越，而不是完美
作爲我這個被完美主義深深毒害的人，深有感觸呀
不要總想着走直線，能直線到達當然很好，但曲線到達也很美。
被瞭解，而不是被認可 （to be known rather than to be validated）
我們應該希望別人理解我們，瞭解我們，而不是期望別人認可我們。
如果我們期望別人認可我們，我們就會做一些別人認可的事情，然後去隱藏或壓抑別人不喜歡或認可的事情
這個不是真實的自己，這種關係也不可能長久。因爲你的”假裝“會讓壓力很大，會讓你精疲力盡，
最後的結果可能就是你會爆發或放棄