When I grew up, I learned not to rock the boat; asserting my own opinions and desires could get me in trouble. Sometimes I carry this over in my parenting; I don't take stand or set limits. When my children push or threaten to get angry, the fear I felt as a child comes up and my reaction is to placate them and keep the peace. This is not healty. I need to feel those fears I felt as a child along with the sense of helplessness that overwhelmed me. I need to separate myself as a child from myself as an adult. I also need to separate my inner child from the child I am raising.
Edison
Edison
